My notion about service is that service is actually the kind of relationship in which you have a commitment to the person. Now I don’t mean to the person’s body or the person’s personality or to the person’s stomach or the person’s almost anything.
What I mean in fact is that for me what service is about, being committed to the person’s being, to the other person spiritually, to who the other person is.
Now the problem with that is that to the degree that you are in fact committed to the other person, you are only as valuable as you can deal with the other person’s stuff, their evidence, their manifestation, and that’s what service is about.
Service is about knowing who the other person is and being able to tolerate giving space to their garbage.
What most people do is give space to people’s quality and deal with their garbage. Actually, you should do it the other way around. Deal with who they are and give space to their garbage.
Keep interacting with them as if they were God, and every time you get garbage from them, give space to the garbage and go back and interact with them as if they were God.